I understand the importance of setting my needs in the front of theirs, as my children grow.
I am aware of, you’re probably believing… WHAT?! Our kids’s needs always come first.
Erroneous. Nurturing yourself and taking care of cultivates an equilibrium and allows you to give your kid all of you in each instant. When your cup is full, you are able to fill theirs. It’s hopeless to fill them up if yours is empty.
BUT, during infant years, all this goes out the window. Their needs trump ours. They are little celestial creatures entirely dependent on us. It’s may be overwhelming, scary, and sometimes only so totally exhausting.
And here is where lies another major modern day parenting misconception. The Cry It Out System (CIO).
The CIO is a sleep training method where the child it left to… you guessed it, cry it out. Many parents took to the procedure as an excellent strategy to train their children to sleep, however studies have shown these processes could have lifelong effects.
I remember after having my first kid… well meaning advice constantly spewed from EVERYONE’S mouth.
You’ll never have the time to yourself.” If you breastfeed him
“You really should just let him cry it out… it’s tough at first but will be VERY simple after you follow-through.”
We've become SO disconnected with our intuition-led ways of raising our own kids. We second guess our instinct telling us to hold and comfort our baby. We are told what to do and how to do it. Like it’s a step-by-step program! We look for advice and guidance for OUR children to our pediatricians, Google and Baby Center. It’s not that physicians and these resources have ill intentions, but they're also disconnected from OUR instinct.
Lifestyle and the parent’s convenience is now more important than responding to our needs that are immediate that are infants. This is the modern manner of raising our children. It’s based on old theories and a majority of man physician recommendations that are old.
I attempted once to implement the ‘cry-it-outside ’ procedure and my entire body was telling me comfort him and … screaming to go grab that infant. I couldn’t do it. I didn't do it. I NEVER did.
He was held by me continuously for almost per year. I breastfed until he was my second until he was 26 months old and 21 months old. Was this the simple way? No, definitely not. It was the way that is hard. It was the only real way my instinct directed me to go. It was trusted by me. You can learn tips from single hippies to take care of new generation children.